I must start by shouting HAPPY NEW YEAR to everyone!! I know it’s been a few weeks since I’ve posted but I must blame it on the holidays and the much needed down time that I got. Sooooooooooooo, since that’s over, let’s jump right back into things…..

Many of us (if not all) are avid Facebook users and I’m sure at some point may have witnessed that one person going on a rant about how messy Facebook is and how they are deleting their account, only to be back posting and ranting a few dates later. Yes I’m sure you see it all the time. But really, is Facebook messy or is it just THEM allowing a social networking site to ruin families, friendships, and relationships?

Being out on the dating scene, I’ve run across a couple of guys who have either refused to get a Facebook or have deleted their account because they claim it interfered or causes negativity to enter their relationship. A bunch of B.S. if you ask me and here’s why I say that….

First and foremost, YOU have the ability to control who has access to your profile and YOU control what YOU put on your profile. If you are in a relationship and are cheating on your significant other, I think it’s a wise idea to NOT post pictures of you and the “other woman/man” hugged up claiming it’s your “cousin”. Really….who does that?!?! Furthermore, if you tell your significant other that you’re going one place, but then check-in on Facebook that you’re out at the club, how can you blame FB when your significant other is coming at you pissed because you lied?!?! Facebook didn’t do anything except for post what YOU told it to post and make public.

Secondly, just because you choose to do your “flirting” via inbox or instant messenger doesn’t mean you won’t get caught, especially if you’re careless (*coughs* and most men are). How are YOU going to blame Facebook because YOU left your computer on with your FB inbox up and your significant other happens to go to your computer and WHAM!! All of your dirty laundry has been exposed. Facebook didn’t do anything except for send the messages that YOU typed via the keyboard.

Lastly, Facebook is NOT a dating site (well at least that wasn’t its original purpose). To go along with the flirting mentioned before, although it may seem innocent, that flirtation is what will cause a lot of hell for you in your relationship. Now we are human and sometimes yes, it is just innocent but we all know there’s that thin line that shouldn’t be crossed. So when that unnecessary flirting comes to bite you in the ass, you can’t blame Facebook for YOUR actions. I say that to say this….

Facebook did NOT ruin your relationship. YOU DID! Facebook only made it EASIER for YOU to get caught.

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